Becoming a mother is one of the greatest and most rewarding experience you’ll ever have, but what are some things you wish you knew before you became a mother?From the moment you find out you’re pregnant you instantly start planning everything. Will I have a boy or girl? What will I name him/her? Will I breastfeed or bottle feed? The questions are endless and many times new moms become stressed over all the questions they have to think about for their childbearing experience. New moms are not perfect and with your first child it’s a learning experience, but; for the better. So what have I learned from being a mom five times over? A lot of things and if I knew a lot more I would have done things differently.
6 Things I wish I knew before my first child
As a new mom and a young mom I honestly never thought of breastfeeding. See I was almost 19 when I had my oldest and he was very much of a kept secret until later in my pregnancy. How I was going to feed him wasn’t a thought on my mind. So naturally, I choose to formula feed because I never knew anyone who breastfed. I gave birth at a “Catholic” hospital and you know what NO one pushed breastfeeding on me. Or even attempt to teach me. I would have loved to had to at least attempt to breastfeed.
Again cloth diapering wasn’t as popular or mainstream as it is today. When I originally thought of cloth diapers I thought of those boring, white, dish towel like cloth diapers that you seal with a safety pin. (Like from the 60’s) Had I know cloth diapers we’re practical, adorable and easy I would have at least tried them once or twice. Although I don’t know how daddy would have felt about that.
That vaccination isn’t mandatory. While I believe that vaccinations are a great medical tool from preventing illness and disease, don’t get pushed into believing what you should do. There are many children who live healthy and full lives with and without vaccinations. Do what’s best for you and your family.
That YOU are your child’s advocate
YOU as the parent know what’s best for your child; not the doctor. Don’t feel bullied by listening to what the doctor thinks is right for your child. Don’t be afraid to speak up, if your doctor doesn’t like what you have to say then it’s time to find a new one.
Grandparents are awesome for advice
Grandparents know a lot about parenting heck they raised you and your partner! Don’t be afraid to ask them for advice and even if you don’t agree they will love your child no matter what.
Don’t fit the mold of X Type Parent
Parenting is not all sunshine and rainbows; we learn from our mistakes and become better parents because of them. No one is perfect by any means and you don’t need to classify your parenting style(s) do what works for you and it is okay to be a mixture of all types.
Remember, no matter how you choose to parent doesn’t make you a bad parent or any less of one. It takes a lot for any parent to raise a child and it is a definite learning curve, your child will love you no matter if they were formula fed or breastfed. Live and learn. <3
What are some things you wished you learn before you became a mother? Feel free to share with us in the comments section below.